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Coach of the month February 2016

Beth

 

Q and A with Beth our February 2016 coach of the month for Relationship Reinvented
What has been your greatest challenge since starting your coaching with Relationship Reinvented?

Since starting coaching with Relationship Reinvented my greatest challenge has been believing in my own capabilities and how to take my own experience and knowledge and use it with the tools I have been shown in coaching classes.
What did you discover about yourself?

I have discovered a lot about myself. I know that I am not crazy, I am a much richer soul than I was before, with a whole lot more information and knowledge. I have also discovered that I do fall back into old thinking but am so much more easily able to deal with triggers and get myself back into a much more balanced place. I have discovered just how much I could fool myself into thinking that I loved myself. I discovered that I was not really the person I constructed in my own story and that it takes time to learn and become the true me.

What is spirituality to you?
To me, spirituality has everything to do with your own relationship with yourself and how you are connected to everything and everyone around you. It has nothing to do with religion, or anything I was taught as a child. It is the embracing of who I am at my core, and the learning that has come with the journey inward to me, the peeling away of the layers of “not me” that I didn’t even realize were there.
What is connection to you?
Connection is a knowing, connection is a deep sense of knowing. It is an energetic place of peace and calm that overrides the storms and stories we create and use as crutches in our old habitual thinking. Connection is a saving grace that we have all the time. Connection is trusting in ones self and ones truth.

Do you have your website active and what kinds of things will we be able to find there?
I have a blog site that is active and it has writings on topics that are pertinent to anyone. It is my creative space to share my thoughts on various topics. One can also find how to reach me for coaching and how to contact me regarding other wisdom I can share.

 

You can also follow Beth here.

Heart Values

“When you heart values someone you always return to them.” I heard these words the other day while watching an epic foreign drama where the main character finds success and true love against all odds. I began to contemplate these words. Were they true? Could someone your heart values return? There was something to this, something deeper than just the notion of a lost romantic love returning.

 

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Being a child of abandonment , living for decades caught in an endless story of the rejected unwanted child, words such as these immediately would sound beguiling. “True love always is deceptive and should be held under suspicion at all costs”, or so my mind always told me. Why? Its simple, Dad left mom, Mom left me, enough said. This trauma left behind a voice whispering, “ You are not special enough for someone to stay.”

Such whispers kept me in a continuous state of abandonment and rejection. I could lie and say to others “I want” or “I deserve” but inside I knew it was an impossibility for me. I was worthless after all. Due to the impossibility of someone returning to me, someone loving me for me, or for me to really deserve anything I feared being without. And so I became a chaser. I chased love holding on with a death grip pleading begging and falling at the feet of the one I adored. Why? Well, because if I didn’t, love would not stay. I had to keep it. I could not fathom having value to another so I took full responsibility of creating that value. I had to be the perfect one, I had to make everything happy, I had to say everything correctly, I had to be in the right energy. If sexy was wanted I became that, if sweet was required that was me, whatever was wanted of me I would make it happen. One mistake, one slip up and that was it, I lose all. And so I did everything I could to stay out of abandonment. I chased becoming whatever I needed to be. But the entire time I was always in abandonment. I had no self. I was just what I had to be.

And so here is the story of my life, my relationships. I would seek attention, glorify in its possibilities, alter myself to suit someone, yet when given attention back I immediately would invariably fall into a state of panic and confusion.” What was this? Is it real? Couldn’t be real, must have me mistaken for someone else. “ I was someone else, nothing was real because I was never real. This lack of authenticity was very frightening so I would grab on harder, doubt the affection all the more and wait for what I knew was coming… rejection, abandonment. Of course it came.

Then my heart found the one. My soul met the one. And I could not be anyone but myself. That meant the fearful one, the panicked one was seen. She couldn’t hide. And once abandonment and rejection met the light for the first time, they took over. I was left in a puddle not knowing which way was up or down, only knowing intense pain and fear. No masks, no perfection, nothing could cover up the real me, the one who was terrified. I discovered I didn’t know myself. I knew my heart and that it loved but I didn’t know the woman that was me. I had not really met her. If I didn’t know her how could I know her value, know her worth, know that she could be valued by another truly for herself? I had to discover this, I wanted to discover this, I needed to. I needed to live in the vulnerability that it created in me, me as the true me with another person and love myself. I needed to discover me.

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The truth is that it is not someone else who needs to value our heart enough to return. We must value our heart, our person, our soul enough to return to ourselves . We must seek within to find the true person inside discovering our worth and our own value. It is true when your heart values someone you always return to them. But it is self, it the me, who must be returned to first and discover that true love resides within. It is the love we have for who we truly are.

 

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Chaya@relationshipreinvented.com

The complexities of the Twin Flame mind…..

The complexities of the twin flame mind….

 

 

 

The overwhelming experience in love in this existence has some very powerful truth to it… It can be that we say that this is wrong, that is wrong, this is right, that is right, and this is about time…….

Time is the one thing that the mind has always done a brilliant job of making possible to keep us from all things love… These conditions whether positive or negative have done such a brilliant job of making those that stop seeing from the eyes of a child, and make this about seeing from the eyes of an adult.

I need more knowledge…. Knowledge for what… To be an expert, to be a conductor, to be the brilliant mind with all the answers… How many answers don’t create more and more pain?

Isn’t this what history has shown us over and over that will be the cycle of repeating behavior that no longer serves us… The truth about the flame you have inside you that becomes vibrated awake in this moment has a very significant truth that says state what you feel.. share what you think, and leave the rest up to how to translate it and absorb it to create the learning of thought to stand deeply within ego and use what makes you suffer and use what makes it impossible to muddle through when it comes to being not able to see in the dark.

The light of the flame within you has a very powerful light to show you, not from the things you can read into, not from the things you can view, but from the truth that the light can show you inside yourself. Upon this light that flickers comes glimpses into the present moment, the present moment that is beautiful whether your ego is going to be attacked, be left to discern what is before you on the outside. The inside says a pattern of thinking that was created from the events you experienced outside you this is still an on going way to be in the world of form.

When does experience finally find a path to be removed and the truth revealed? A truth only in the present moment without thinking will provide. This truth is about what happens inside you as you read what is written here. We still feel the pain of struggling through what the truth wants to show us. Not because we have a belief system but because compassionately if you see and let yourself feel the energy of what is inside you. You can see the truth about the thinking or the dissecting of what you are in truth doing to yourself. As you can move your flame energy in any direction will you shine it for love… or for thinking which is truth is suffering!

When we birthed into this nature we saw the truth in everything… from the love we felt being in someones arms, to the love of what it was to see all of nature around us doing things that we saw were beautiful… Even in violence we didn’t see that something painful was occurring it was later the translation of what someone says or does and tells us to believe is what we keep to keep us from the truth.

The complex mind makes everything so advanced, so complex, so riveting, that we make this not about the light or the dark which both have a very deep truth with either polarity.

What you experience as a flame can be the deep sadness of this very thing. You see outside we seek answers.. We seek a path to follow, we seek someone who will guide us in the physical where the light that becomes somewhat lit and those that have stayed in the dark come out to say well your just not getting it. Who are those people and where is the compassion to listen to say I am listening I am holding and I will not stop listening, and I am listening with my whole being, that what you are experiencing has been to go inside, and torture yourself more, because we all are taught to interact in the world of form.. to not listen to what the formless needs to say will only be something I can’t understand…

When I went through hour after hour, and day after day, and month after month, of crying! I couldn’t hear the truth yet from the formless as it surrounded me and held me deep within to show me that all was going to be ok… I was going through the pain of not having…, Not having her arms around me, not having my arms around her… Hell, I didn’t know why I was even given arms… I kept wondering how could she move on from me… How was I to move on without her… I didn’t understand my own flame…

I made her responsible for my wholeness! Not seeing that this was the beautiful torture of my own mind saying I was not it for her….

How could I? In being activated in the mind to keep me from myself…. The error of thinking… What was it exactly?

Was it my own creation or the outside worlds creating of what I should believe…

What was I in my thoughts…

Was I just a broken man who made broken choices…

Or was something else trying to break through inside me.

I kept trying to fill an emptiness that was shown to me by the outside world. I didn’t cry because of the outside world… I cried because the inside world within me had not had a rain storm in 30 years…

I didn’t know what to believe…. religion, spirituality, or anything else…

What I was left with was a mind that was left to hit the reset button. Where in me was the reset button?

I know something in me was lost in the dark… but how did I know what the dark was within myself…

How did I know, that what I was thinking was that something I needed to go into. Was I doomed to be alone forever? Was I not worthy of her love or any love?

Was I not worthy of anyones love? Wait… who is asking the questions and who is supposed to answer?

We have spent so much time calling to something out there to come and give us answers… Could this be God? And why was God silent? What was the silence? Have I truly been thinking about this correctly?

Did I not truly go enough into the silence to learn it for myself? What is myself? Who did I think I was?

You see when I went inside to see what the darkness was… I needed to take a light… This light is who you are without thinking.. How else would we know dark?

How else would we understand where anything came from if we don’t investigate for ourselves the silence and into the silence in being. Yes! It is one thing to keep searching outside ourselves to find the answers… But the answers written inside you go without having someone to translate them for you, without the mind to dictate what is what in silence?

I just didn’t understand what happen to me, I felt that I was only going to lose myself, I had broken everything else, did I even investigate what I did break.. Did I even understand why I was shattered, and why I would quite often hear shattering in my waking moments and dreams…

After this happened more than enough times… The silence would come and then I was left with… why is there silence now? What was the shattering besides what I wanted to think was my soul?

My soul???? It then dawned on me… wait… The soul is what we call energy…

It isn’t made of glass so what was it that I heard shattering…. It was my own thought process!!

Some call this the awakening process, at least that is what I am going to state here for what we find all over seems to point to something we are all searching for answers for. I then started to see things more new… More vibrant.. Not over time… but without it!

I realized the energy of moving my hand, moving my legs, allowing my sight had nothing to do with true thinking. It was the will of the soul that stood there flowing in my existence without my true sense of being to say I am right here.

As I stayed this way the tears only got stronger… Then within the silence something happened. I realized that what I think was only going to be as powerful as what I didn’t think.

The truth in silence.

I started to understand what I wasn’t… I wasn’t a bad person, I wasn’t evil, I wasn’t good, I wasn’t a phenomenal man, I wasn’t something less than the greater space of what the silence wanted me to experience….

Peace… and as the peace became more powerful, the darkness seemed to be less and less of what I was seeking in the first place.

This of course was not the library of all things twin flames.. but the truth about the flame I was within myself that was now awake enough to experience the connection to myself more vibrantly.

Not with seeking what my mind inside told me to seek or what actions were going on outside me, but my own actions deep with me. I then, in this silence saw my own conditions on what I was to myself… Not smart enough, not much to look at, not quick enough, not loving enough… the not enough’s where great within me.. and now there were just conditions… not good or bad conditions, not right or wrong conditions, but conditions that no longer served me as a being in light of light!

What we set out to do here is not seek more answers to anything, but to seek more answers to nothing. For what you stay stuck in from a pattern in the outside world will give you just that… a pattern… a process… how deep is a process… well depends on the complex mind that is trying to steer you away from any truth you have within you. That truth is your silence and your connection to yourself that may be keeping you from any movement.

When I realized this… It was something for myself to see, to feel the truth about why she didn’t want to connect to me and moved on… I was stuck… I was stuck in seeking someone to fill the empty void I was the only one who could fill…. I was lost in outside world dominance and what it did to what I allowed to keep me from any truth in connection I could have within myself.

I was hurt… I was shattered… I was in charge of my own crucifying and then I realized what needed to be shattered was the thought process of what I was telling myself about myself inside based on the rules of what the outside world tried to tell me.

It wasn’t until this that the truth about the ability of love was truly given to me. This gift is in each of us… it is the light… not our thinking about it, but our soul that drives you to have any motion at all! It gives you the ability to hear what the silence wants you to hear within yourself…

This archive isn’t for those that are seeking someone outside to tell them what or who to be… not a youtube, not a group of others can tell you anything about who you are to yourself or to those you love. Only you can… You can see the truth in both positive and negative energy within yourself, outside of this isn’t a very productive way of thinking… it will give you the positive and negative existence in thinking into the outside world of form… There is no purpose to this other than keeping you in the process of seeking counsel to what pain you need to run from… Pain that you run from is nothing more than suffering… and not going into what the pain wants you to embrace in the silence which is where your truth of love will be there with you…. It is only comforting when you stop with I am.. and let I am show you the silence in truth. How beautiful a light this is, is only going to be something you can experience by finding this page…

We keep seeing move forward…. Forward… forward is the experience that says Inward… You are in there experiencing this existence… Not in your mind which translates words, but in your love in ability to move in physical. To not bite those that seek to bite you.. to not slander those that slander you.. to not challenge those that challenge you… Remember the most powerful destructive force in human is the ego…

the ego will do the thinkable!

It will seek ways to keep itself in power… It will seek ways to attack others.. It will attack even your own beliefs… This just isn’t love… no matter how you look at it.. It is a way to dominate you to keep you thinking which keeps you away from your own truth. It just isn’t the truth about what your embedded flame wants you to see! In this it is about what you can see inside yourself within the actions you can flow through with love within you. We love everyone, no matter the depth, no matter the suffering, no matter the attacks. This suffering has been there for millions of years.. with 9 billion or so on this planet.. What if we all did the one thing that changes everything. Look deep inside to bring your flame to it’s blue light to raise the level of awareness that you can have with just being!

Love deeply,

Sherry and Lee

Do you feel stuck in life? Time for change.

Recently a new friend began to tell me about how miserable her life is. How she hates where she is, hates her culture, hates her family, hates her life, has no direction, no hope, nothing. All she wants is to escape to somewhere else, believing life will be perfect somewhere else as someone else. Her problem she says is that she is stuck. Her parents she says never taught her. Her culture never encouraged her. Love never found her or stayed with her. People judge her. Stuck.
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Running the Hamster Wheel

Stuck where? Stuck how? Just stuck. Stuck without hope. Stuck angry, stuck miserable, and stuck tired full of rage, pain, and suffering. But she is not stuck in a city she hates, she is not stuck in a life she hates, not stuck in a culture she hates but stuck inside all her suffering, stuck inside herself.  We get stuck in suffering , spend a lifetime in pain without knowing how to get out. Caught in a swirling vortex of hell spinning round and round faster and faster growing more angry and miserable everyday?
Pointing fingers outward at our parents, at society, at the one who we loved and lost, at friends, co workers, siblings etc.  Pointing and pointing, swirling and whirling faster and faster caught in the tempest of rejection, abandonment and judgement of self. Round and around and around. Stuck in an endless loop of our own suffering.

Stop Pointing Outward

We blame everyone for our storm. Everyone but the real culprit, the real person responsible – ourselves, the you, the me, the voice in the head that says “they are…its their fault, if only..” . This voice screams and rages “They are horrible , they are awful, they are, they are, they are!!!” while whispering “ I am the one who is nothing. I deserve nothing. I will never find nothing. I am worth nothing.” We want to get out of this. We want to feel better. We want to be happy and succeed. We want to not be angry so we run away searching for an outside answer to an inside problem. We have a choice every day to listen to that voice, hear it for what it is, who it really hurts, what it really says or continue to blindly follow it without questioning it while pointing endlessly outward never looking inward.
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I listen to my friend and I hear her stuck. I know who placed her there and who keeps her. I know that she and only she has the power to break free. Facing self, facing our pain, our wounds takes courage. It takes courage to see what we do to ourselves,  to face abandonment, rejection and judgement. All those big scary words that create those whirling winds around us making us angry, miserable stuck in suffering. Stuck. Stuck seeking escape from us.
No matter where she goes, what she does until she sees self the spinning will continue. Anything and everything new will be met with excitement at first but then disappointment will follow. If nothing changes in her the spinning will begin again because the voice inside that whispers its poison will remain unheard and unchallenged. She will say she chose the wrong city, the wrong friends, the wrong partner, the wrong this and the wrong that. She will see that all she thought she escaped from is still there just in different surroundings. There she will be once again spinning around stuck.
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Time to Look Inward

If you are stuck, stop running, stop hiding, stop pointing outward, stop your spin. It is time to look inward, time to seek understanding of you. You are in control of what holds you, what binds you, what keeps you caught swirling around in what feels like a never ending spin – You. I know because I have been there. I have been stuck. I have been miserable, pointing out at the world, running and running, spinning and spinning. I did all that my friend wishes to do. I did it all and then some. Once I began to see what was really keeping me stuck I saw it wasn’t my location, my culture, my parents, my friends but ME. It was never a what that kept me stuck but a who — me and only me. Again I ask those of you who are suffering to stop a for a moment. Stop pointing outward, stopping running and stand still for a moment. Look inward and see that it is up to you to stopping spinning , to stop the stuck. Look at the ME and begin the journey of discovery. It won’t be pretty, it will be hard I guarantee it. It will take time, it will take effort, but the reward is priceless, the reward is you become unstuck walking your path, living life fully. If you can’t look at the ME, at the YOU, if you don’t know how or where to begin, we are here to help you, help you see, help you take the steps out of stuck. I am here to help you because I have been stuck too.
Author: Chaya Reich
Relationship Reinvented Coach
http://www.chayareich.com/

How My Life Has Changed From A Client To A Coach

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Losing My Mind. Coming To My Senses.

Just one year ago this month, I thought I was losing my mind. I had no doubts whatsoever.

Today, I now know that I did lose my mind, but it has come back. And it is back more clear and strong than ever. I know my purpose and have to give thanks where thanks is due.

You see, the person who walked into my life and turned everything upside down is the same person who introduced me to the Twin Flame concept. I had not heard of it before and was really clueless. Some days I still feel clueless.

So, I did a lot of reading, trying to figure out what the heck was going on. Why did I have these intense feelings? Why was I awake in the middle of the night getting on Facebook to connect with this person when they were messaging me at the same time? Why did I feel like I had been electrocuted when we were near each other? Why, oh why, did this person feel like there was a magnet pulling me to them? Why does the mirror bring such strong triggers?

My “Aha” Moment

I was directed to a YouTube video that Lee and Sherry had done. I was immediately hooked. I had to know more. More about this dynamic and more about them. I watched a lot of their videos and it helped me. Fortunately for me, I lived pretty close to them and sent them an email to see if we could meet, kind of like a free 30 minute session. The minute they walked into the place we were meeting, I just about cried. I knew in that instant that I had to work with them. It was like YES!!!! They know and can help me.

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So, I jumped into Root Camp. I had no idea what I was getting into… but every single moment, every tear shed and every hard knock down was worth it. I would sometimes drive down to their house and sit at their table with them and Big Mike. Let me tell you, there is no fooling Lee or Sherry. But in person, there really is NO FOOLING them. They picked up on all of my crap, and I was ready to be real. I told them things I would never have dreamed sharing with other people. And believe me, I had not told my traditional therapist about the stuff I told them. They got it, they had been through it too.

Getting Comfortable Being Uncomfortable… And Becoming Comfortable

As a Root Camp client, I had to be ready to be real. Real with myself. The questions were asked in such a perfect way, but let me say that you have to want to do the work. To look inside with honesty of self. If you want to spew lies and non truth then you will not benefit from any type of Root Camp, therapy or coaching. Just won’t happen. It is about being truthful with yourself. And learning that your mind and ego have had their way with you, that you can get past the blocks when you open up and be real, and truthful.

Root Camp under my belt, I learned more about myself than any other time in my life. That is long time, since I am almost 50.

About a week after I finished Root Camp, I saw a post from Relationship Reinvented about them starting a new coaching program. It took me about a day to decide if I was right for it, and if it was right for me. I literally jumped in. With both feet.

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I have never looked back or had a moment of regret. Now as a Relationship Reinvented Certified Life and Spiritual Coach I look back at what I have learned over the last year and see how much growth there has been. I have benefitted as a human being by learning what I have done to deal with pain, to cover it over and allow myself to live with self deceits. I have learned about people and how we all have core wounds, and where they come from, and how to look within. I have been given the gifts of unconditional love and truth. Being a coach has been the culmination of my life’s journey, as a prior teacher, nurse, mom and caregiver.

Helping Others Find Their Truth

It is an honor to be a coach with Relationship Reinvented, to be asked by someone who is in pain to walk with them, to help them on their journey. To hold them in no judgement and hear them. To be with them as they learn and grow. The gift of sharing and seeing the inner truth as it comes out. To hear the pain in someone’s voice transform to the acceptance and light that shines from within when they learn that they are love, unconditional love. That this journey is about self and not twin. Twin is in your life to teach you, to lead you back to you. Triggers are gifts. It is all a gift back to love. The purpose of humankind is to love each other. For all of this I am deeply grateful to Lee and Sherry who lived their journey, put it out into public for all to see and grow from, who hear the call to share and love deeply.

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The gratitude I feel for them is deep. Yet, I also feel deep gratitude for myself. I took a risk, jumped into the unknown and allowed myself to be real. I now have the tools to get back on track when I stumble, and know that if I can do it, you can do it if you are willing to do the work. Any one of the coaches at Relationship Reinvented can help you on your journey. Find one that fits with you and give it a try.

Doesn’t it get weary carrying a sack of lies and crap on your back when you have the inner light that flickers that there is another way? As Lee says, “you can’t hear truth when you are making up crap in your own mind”. THAT is the purpose of Root Camp, to take everything that is not truth out of your mind and put back the the light and the truth, the love that you came here with and that you are.