Just one year ago this month, I thought I was losing my mind. I had no doubts whatsoever.
Today, I now know that I did lose my mind, but it has come back. And it is back more clear and strong than ever. I know my purpose and have to give thanks where thanks is due.
You see, the person who walked into my life and turned everything upside down is the same person who introduced me to the Twin Flame concept. I had not heard of it before and was really clueless. Some days I still feel clueless.
So, I did a lot of reading, trying to figure out what the heck was going on. Why did I have these intense feelings? Why was I awake in the middle of the night getting on Facebook to connect with this person when they were messaging me at the same time? Why did I feel like I had been electrocuted when we were near each other? Why, oh why, did this person feel like there was a magnet pulling me to them? Why does the mirror bring such strong triggers?
I was directed to a YouTube video that Lee and Sherry had done. I was immediately hooked. I had to know more. More about this dynamic and more about them. I watched a lot of their videos and it helped me. Fortunately for me, I lived pretty close to them and sent them an email to see if we could meet, kind of like a free 30 minute session. The minute they walked into the place we were meeting, I just about cried. I knew in that instant that I had to work with them. It was like YES!!!! They know and can help me.
So, I jumped into Root Camp. I had no idea what I was getting into… but every single moment, every tear shed and every hard knock down was worth it. I would sometimes drive down to their house and sit at their table with them and Big Mike. Let me tell you, there is no fooling Lee or Sherry. But in person, there really is NO FOOLING them. They picked up on all of my crap, and I was ready to be real. I told them things I would never have dreamed sharing with other people. And believe me, I had not told my traditional therapist about the stuff I told them. They got it, they had been through it too.
As a Root Camp client, I had to be ready to be real. Real with myself. The questions were asked in such a perfect way, but let me say that you have to want to do the work. To look inside with honesty of self. If you want to spew lies and non truth then you will not benefit from any type of Root Camp, therapy or coaching. Just won’t happen. It is about being truthful with yourself. And learning that your mind and ego have had their way with you, that you can get past the blocks when you open up and be real, and truthful.
Root Camp under my belt, I learned more about myself than any other time in my life. That is long time, since I am almost 50.
About a week after I finished Root Camp, I saw a post from Relationship Reinvented about them starting a new coaching program. It took me about a day to decide if I was right for it, and if it was right for me. I literally jumped in. With both feet.
I have never looked back or had a moment of regret. Now as a Relationship Reinvented Certified Life and Spiritual Coach I look back at what I have learned over the last year and see how much growth there has been. I have benefitted as a human being by learning what I have done to deal with pain, to cover it over and allow myself to live with self deceits. I have learned about people and how we all have core wounds, and where they come from, and how to look within. I have been given the gifts of unconditional love and truth. Being a coach has been the culmination of my life’s journey, as a prior teacher, nurse, mom and caregiver.
It is an honor to be a coach with Relationship Reinvented, to be asked by someone who is in pain to walk with them, to help them on their journey. To hold them in no judgement and hear them. To be with them as they learn and grow. The gift of sharing and seeing the inner truth as it comes out. To hear the pain in someone’s voice transform to the acceptance and light that shines from within when they learn that they are love, unconditional love. That this journey is about self and not twin. Twin is in your life to teach you, to lead you back to you. Triggers are gifts. It is all a gift back to love. The purpose of humankind is to love each other. For all of this I am deeply grateful to Lee and Sherry who lived their journey, put it out into public for all to see and grow from, who hear the call to share and love deeply.
The gratitude I feel for them is deep. Yet, I also feel deep gratitude for myself. I took a risk, jumped into the unknown and allowed myself to be real. I now have the tools to get back on track when I stumble, and know that if I can do it, you can do it if you are willing to do the work. Any one of the coaches at Relationship Reinvented can help you on your journey. Find one that fits with you and give it a try.
Doesn’t it get weary carrying a sack of lies and crap on your back when you have the inner light that flickers that there is another way? As Lee says, “you can’t hear truth when you are making up crap in your own mind”. THAT is the purpose of Root Camp, to take everything that is not truth out of your mind and put back the the light and the truth, the love that you came here with and that you are.
Sitting here going back to remember the lightning strike of pain that had a calling is quite uncomfortable. I remember it because it was something that truly tried to get me to see what it was I was searching for in the intimate experience of being physical with someone.
My appetite for sex was quite monstrous when I was separated from my twin. Inside my mind, I experienced visions of what being intimate was as if I could experience that every day. I would dream such passion that was calling to me. This is why the senses need to be understood and seen correctly as they are the truth about what we are sharing here in this moment.
This is not to be fooled with what you THINK you see and make it painful and about something you wish you couldn’t see. Looking back when this happened, that is not the statement I would choose but I will say it is not something you can remove. The time I truly remember this was Super Bowl 2012 on Feb 5, 2012. I was watching this with my brother and my sons and I was laying on the floor of my new fortress of solitude. I felt aroused and unsure of what I was experiencing and then the first pain strike in my heart I knew without knowing what I was experiencing.
I closed my eyes and could see her and her new beau on the couch I owned having sex. It was not something I wanted to experience but I felt every touch and every want she had. It then was revealed to me in my senses why this was so. This was the most powerful part of experiencing a soul connection to its counter. Especially when you wake up to find out why you desired intimate connection so deeply. It was something I could feel and write about in such a way that I would literally convince myself that this was someone out there doing this and was calling to me. It didn’t make sense until this connection. Notice the spelling of sense.
Inside of me was something that I always wanted touched during intimate connection that would allow me to feel touched and feel loved. It was very rare that it happened or that I didn’t convince or trick myself into believing this was the way someone was without me making it up inside of myself. I would feel my way through making love with someone and be completely in tune with them as an energy. This was something that I could feel yet was I feeling the person I was with or who I was connected to and it was being returned?
I could hear whispers felt in my ears from the moment this kind of yearning showed up. I thought for sure I was dreaming the whole thing. I knew I could hear where to touch next and how soft or hard to touch or something that just completely immersed me into the state of being completely turned on and then experiencing a reality that was real but not.
I could smell something of a distinct flower or fragrance it called to me and more so when she was either with someone or I was with someone. It triggered the other senses more as a calling to what the experience had for me. I was lost in something tenacious and erotic and it layered me into what was being experienced.
Mouth would water unexpectedly as though something was not enough and not fulfilling a thirst had, it was like I could drink never enough and I could eat without any regards to what it would do other than fuel this want and need that seemed to be out of control.
These senses shared in this connection are felt in the core. It is only answered when you go inside and see it for what it is. Can your soul connection feel this? Yes, not the way you think… but what your senses will allow.
If you think this is about them not selecting you, it is about them calling to you and you both not understanding where the calling comes from. It can create a large appetite if not seen and experienced outside of what the mind tells you. It will continue to get stronger with letting go!
YOU are the Creator of your own Destiny Part 2
By: Sherry Patterson of Relationship Reinvented
So What do you do when you have been so bad, and you have so much real genuine goodness in you? What do you do with shared dreams? What do you do with a desire to help people and you just recently in the past couple of years have learned how to get yourself into healing? What do you do with a desire so strong it stays with you, heavy in your chest. Well We Manifested it, How?? well believe me we were stuck in HUMAN thought processes and the UNIVERSE had its own plan, It seems as Human Beings we do not understand the Universe has plans for us, or God or Source or whatever your belief system is, for the sake of not getting into religion lets go with Universe! So at this point Lee was working retail, he was being used, walked on and he was giving his all as Lee does in anything he does, he was giving 120% and getting back nothing, no thank you , no respect, just BS. From what I know of retail, this is typical. Lee was buying really nice shoes and in just 30 days later with holes in the bottom from doing his job. Waking the building making sure he was coaching employees, building relationships with customers, all that!
But the dreams were strong, Lee began to blog as writing has been a passion of his always. Me? well I Job shopped, and if you watched our videos also know some shameless things I did that ended Lee and My Relationship finally lol
Now we have Union. Getting back on track here, I was floating out there still, my revenge on Men still rampant. I did find a little nitch in life actually doing some online screening for escorts, screening clients to make sure they were not cops, then I did land a small gig with a local furniture company doing “skip traces” finding people who have skipped out on paying their payments and or moved with the furniture, I was really successful at it, but my desire was still there to make a difference.
The Universe kept giving us dreams, desires and drive to start Relationship Reinvented, Coaching those in relationships, helping those going through issues, marriage coaching, and subsequently life coaching and such. Lee’s blogs were getting noticed and he was being called for to help. The universe kept putting it in our faces, in our spare time we took online certification courses, got a shit ton of CD Courses learned nothing, apart from what we already knew about compassion, leadership and team building and confidentiality ect,, Lee’s famous words to me that still ring through my ears today is “If you put me in front of people i’ll speak” I heard that, but had no where to start… Then final separation came and it was painful, our relationship was over, both had moved on the “finality” of what was Lee and Sherry and Relationship Reinvented was over before it started. I was devastated and well Life went on, I found a small little temporary office job helping out a friend who was out on maternity leave.
Then the reuniting came into plan and wouldn’t the universe have it but to have the girl come back from leave and again leave me jobless. Lee was still working the same retail job he had for years, it was lucrative enough just not his passion, however his passion was there, he was able to connect with people, help them, give them advice, he was able to build good working relationships with co workers, build teams show compassion and be a mentor to so many. Relationship Reinvented was born again as Lee began to write, the dreams started back up and the passion was back full force.Our Union is the key to Relationship Reinvented, we finally realized that, the Business is built on our union! The dream had always been alive its just us that was not. When you are ready its the Universe that will let you know. AND That is just what the universe did!, Lee lost his job. His job title was eliminated! So now what??? JEEZE, We were fresh from separation, fresh from seeing other people and we needed to do something fast! Trusting in the universe was the first step and realizing well the universe is adamant about these dreams.
Lee started blogging harder, we were taking the steps to build a coaching business, we were communicating and it was not easy as emotions were raw, sometimes even interfering with building the business, there was a spiritual aspect involved, something driving our union, something driving us to do this, but dammit if we did not have communication mastered. Communication about business flowed like a river, but about personal well there was hurt and open wounds and all the while in healing sometimes the human thought process is really hard to overcome.It was my thought process, My human thought process.
So the universe stepped in and removed me, subsequently it was my fault as I still had some obligations to take care of from my troubles back in day, seems my responsibilities have been overlooked and I did not
do what I was supposed to do and I was in damn trouble again. As the Universe would have it Lee and I were separated Physically but not spiritually, the telepathy got stronger the communication got stronger by the day, Lee was home writing, writing and writing and helping people, talking to people, and guiding and I was teaching Chakra classes and meditating daily and actually helping him with business by calling him multiple times a day, and answering blog posts, sending him blog posts and just staying true to me and living in truth. It was quite the journey, the premise for Relationship Reinvented is to help change the world, help others by helping them to go inside and get to the root of their issues, stand in their truths.The universe paved the way and we followed. The Twin Flame dynamic was never really a part of why we started Relationship Reinvented. The Universe simply put it in our paths, we knew what we were doing was mission and we also knew we were in a Twin Flame union but becoming Twin Flame coaches just came natural, What we do is help Twins look at the relationships they have to themselves to see why they are not in Union, and help those who are not familiar with the dynamic to see why they create exceptions in all relationships. Relationship Reinvented is about the relationship you have to yourself.
When the Universe deemed it necessary for me to come home I did and we went at it full force, We trusted the Universe that Relationship Reinvented was our mission and the Universe sustained us, we also had Lee’s unemployment at that time, but soon the universe would test our faith and take it away. Coaching is what we were doing, coaching couples, coaching individuals, parentless prevention, through divorces, through family issues, through personal issues, Relationship Reinvented was born and subsequently so was Twin Flames Lee and Sherry, and we were getting a lot of inquiries for Twin Flame Coaching. We enjoy coaching Twins and those who are involved in the dynamic who is in separation or running and chasing or those struggling inside of the dynamic, it is rewarding to the soul and the Universe always send us those ready to do the work, some who are not but when they are ready they will have the tools to do it. We coach outside of the dynamic as well, worldwide, we now have major celebrity clients and clients all over the world.
The Universe trusted us with the dreams of Relationship Reinvented and we trusted the Universe to have our backs. Last year we toured the U.S.A. Not able to make it to near as many cities as we would have liked, but the ones we did get to were amazing and rewarding and we feel we made a difference. A world Tour is now being planned with Europe and Australia in the works, as well as more US cities, our you tube channel is still ongoing and Relationship Reinvented is our life’s work. It is all we do. Lee and I have a home office where we work sometimes 9 am – 10 pm at night without a break, paying our dues in the Business world, working long hours and helping as many people as we can in a day, our schedule last year when not traveling was overwhelming but rewarding. We love what we do, we work from home, we are our own bosses and we can make our own hours.
When I look back The pillow talk is now reality, Ive put Lee in front of people and his words change lives, and we have now been called on for interviews with people we have only dreamed of. We already do at least 2 radio interviews a month and moving toward more interviews and public speaking and conferences and conversions and such. The key phrase I always keep in mind is to stay humble ! I sometimes look back to where I have been, lying in a bunk with a drive to help change the world, and I am damn well doing it, if it is 1 person at a time.
How? How do you manifest something like this?
*Follow Universal signs
*Believe in signs and wonders and believe the Universe is Trying to tell you something!
*Believe the Universe has a plan for you, and the meaning of life is to find your gift.
*Believe the Universe will have your back, BELIEVE without doubt! Key word no doubt!
*Believe the universe will not let you down and will not let you suffer if you trust and have just a tiny little fiber of Faith.
*Trust your instincts, always go with your Gut
*Feel the pull, feel where the universe is leading you
*Believe in yourself, You have it in you to do anything you want and achieve all of your dreams.
*Go for it! The Universe will not set you up for failure
*Follow your soul and your mission always!
*Don’t let anything stand in your way, The Universe will not lead you without giving you resources to get there YOU have to utilize them.
* Always look at things positively, The Universe will make a way if you don’t, for example I could have used my “vacation” physically away from Lee as a Negative thing and got pissed off at the world and the Judge and whoever else was involved, but in reality it was a blessing, we learned so much. Sometimes bad things happen for good reasons and end up being the best things that can ever happen to you.
YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR OWN DESTINY!
Relationship Reinvented LCC is a child, Lee and I Birthed,and we have grown it into a world Wide business, Relationship Reinvented our personal schedule got way to overwhelming and in keeping with Universal plan of helping change the world by helping people go inside themselves, the Universe continued with Dreams, and keeps on, the dream for the Certification Program came to me and I did not hesitate, I had faith in the Universe, Lee and I began the process 3 years ago, took all the legal necessary steps and the certification program was birthed. It was hard at times to “let go and share our baby with others” But once we did, it flourished! We now have over 35 and growing Certified Coaches who have went though or are going through our program to answer their own call to help coach others and help free up our schedule so we can fulfill our speaking obligations and conference appearances and our Tour this year. While we still coach and we always will, we have amazing Coaches personally trained by us who have answered the call to help us in our mission. We knew this mission was global, and in all reality it is only just beginning. Relationship Reinvented is ready for this New Year, New experiences and travel and really taking action to help change the world !! We are here World and ready for anything you have for us!
Everyday Lee and I coach from our pain, everyday Lee and I coach from our separations, from the bullshit we put one another through, Everyday we stand in our truths, we tell others to stand in theirs, we pull people out of the lies and manipulations and abandonment and fear we were once in. With my in your face, sometimes to raw, truth, and Lee’s gentle, compassion and loving spirit, We coach as a team, While Lee does the majority of the coaching and I handle the majority of the business aspect of it, I am most always in session with him unless I am playing mom taxi to and from school. Lee helps as well with some business stuff, we now have a team of coaches, a business manager and a marketing manager and a promotions team. Seems like the Universe knows what it is doing after all, and perhaps if we would have believed in that instead of living in our “human thought processes” we could have been doing this sooner but then that would not have been universal plan would it?
Trust in the Universe, Stand in your truth, don’t keep anything in, be free of lies and deceit and manipulation, Be Free of Fear and the Universe will give you your own dreams. Wether you are in a union, or marriage or relationship or you are single, does not matter, YOU have what it takes RIGHT NOW, to follow your dreams, the Universe will fill in the blank spots when its time!
Believe, Have Faith, and Love Deeply and DO THE WORK!
If I can do it, so can you!
YOU are the creator of Your own Destiny! By Sherry Patterson of Relationship Reinvented
For the Majority of you reading this, you have watched enough of our videos to know most of our lives and the bullshit we but one another through to get into union. This isn’t about that.. lol… You have heard enough about that (for now). This Blog is about me, and most likely you as well.
Recently I read a quote that said “You are the creator of your own Destiny” Well shit that made sense to me, Now,as I went most of my life confused and depressed and living day to day. Most of my life lived as a victim to something, and most all things like, sexual abuse and physical abuse and abandonment issues. I lived a destructive life and if you can name it I have probably done it and lied and manipulated my way out of it. All the while really destroying myself and I had enough ego to bring children into my world of ego and lies and manipulation. I can say this I love my children beyond anything I can even state, however I taught them (at least the oldest ones) how to be a victim. I taught them to lie and I taught them how to withdraw love. I spent most of my life depending on others for financial support, not working not teaching my kids a sense of responsibility, most of all degrading myself and often times taking steps to do everything I could to support my family or help support them in ways that were ethically degrading and illegal. Often times especially when the internet came out, really exploiting my victim mentality, Preying on older gentlemen playing the ‘Single mom blues” when in all reality my husband was at work, or after my divorce, I had boyfriends who stepped up and helped me along with the child support my ex husband was paying. Sounds sad doesn’t it? oh it was, i was living good but still the victim, It was my crutch.
I never felt good about myself, I went to school for something I loved, my passion is animals, I have a heart for them, but I seemed to have more passion for getting even with he world,and taking the easy way out, having fun and always making sure the world revolved around me somehow. The questions that made me feel nervous or I hated the most was “where do you work?” “What do you do”? I usually had some story to ‘Impress”. My family at this point had lost all trust in me, as everything I usually spoke about was fabricated. I got myself into some trouble living the lifestyle I was living. As most of you already know I had to take a little “vacation from life”. I had time time sit and reflect on my life and “find myself” because I had put myself into a position where I had no choice, I found the desire to do something with myself. I went to college I took it seriously, I worked hard, I maintained a 3.98 GPA, I got motivated and got an associates degree in Business. I was ready to face the world.
I was walking along a street in Cincinnati on Valentines day 2005, when I saw a place, I walked in, It was a women only type of low impact fitness facility. I asked for a job, the lady immediately hired me and within a week told me about some troubles she was in with he business and asked me to overhaul it, she trusted me and I took that seriously. I began by working literally sometimes 24 hours a day, I cleaned out the office,sometimes slept there, went though the files, I cleaned and made computer programs and made the place essentially mine. I got personal with the ladies, I built that business up to something extraordinary, I rarely seen the owner, she had another facility and I had built this one up so good she trusted me. I did all the hiring and unfortunately had to let some go, I Was building skills, I was literally running a business using the skills I had learned in college. I was so proud of me, I worked a lot, I loved it, I was single and just dating I has started in a small apartment and about a year later bought myself a little 2 bedroom house, I owned it, it was mine and I was gaining confidence. I met Lee that year and If you have watched our videos you can add this story as you know what happened with him, my personal life was good, annoying but good, then the separation came and I met Ron and it was safe for me, the lady asked me if I was interested in buying the facility, I did, It was mine for about 9 months, and the economy collapsed. The business was going downhill quick, I had lost Lee and even my house was in jeopardy. I moved in with Ron and did a short sale on my house and there it is, Instead of letting the business fall out from under me, I had did what the owner did before, I asked the manager I had hired if she was interested in buying it, she did and I got out without any profit. So I found myself again, unemployed depending on someone else for financial support. most of you know the rest, marriage, Lee comes back, Baby, divorce, and the Hamster Wheel with Lee. Here is the funny thing even after some success my family still did not support me or even give me any words of encouragement, They were waiting on me to f**k life up again, some still are. They were and mostly all still are stuck in MY victim mentality, I had so long let go of. I realized a long time ago that attempting to try to make my family understand forgiveness and unconditional love, and belief in one another is a moot point and trying to get outside validation from them is not necessary for my growth. I stay working on my own healing and unconditional love in myself that keeps me pretty busy lol
I did attempt small jobs, with small kids again it was hard and with a “record” even harder, I always had in the back of my soul that I had a passion for helping people but it was kind of rude and truthful and in your face. I thought maybe a drug or alcohol counselor. I could never get focused on a career with the hamster wheel I was on trying to have a relationship with Lee, That ended up being the issue, trying to have a relationship. Then Lee and I found the Twin Flame dynamic, we realized this connection we shared was different. Lees work hours were insane he would come home exhausted, Retail was killing him, during our pillow talk we discussed what our dream jobs would be, what we would love to do.
Im sure most every dream job conversation involves being your own boss, making your own hours, Doing something you love everyday. Our dreams showed us the exact same things, we had the same damn dreams, oh thats going really make my family think I am bat shit crazier than they already do. We were in the same places in our separate dreams, waking up every morning and comparing not even believing what we were saying to one another. it was exciting, we layed in bed and named the Business, But Lee was still knee deep in retail and hell we needed to live so him quitting was not an option, It was just a dream, Pillow talk, but something in me was coming alive, my gift I could feel it awakening.
I felt that motivation, That drive always, I felt that burning sensation in my soul, I felt that desire to help people. My soul had been awakened, Lee’s too when we talked about it his eyes lit up, something in him was stirring but responsibility and Life over rode the desire at this time. It was a dream. What I knew was I needed it, I needed this, These dreams were given to us. I was finding some kind of Trust in the Universe for these dreams.What we didn’t know was it was going to be our Pain, our victim mentality, our destructive lives, Manipulative behaviors and lying and deceit and all those trips on the hamster wheel that would be the catalyst for it. While my personality is raw and truthful and in your face, Lee’s is gentle and loving and kind, he speaks in codes that I can translate. What a team we could have, how do we get this? How do we manifest this dream?
Well that is why there is a part two to this blog !! Stay Tuned