How do you make love in your life?
Foundation! Have you ever sat down with yourself and wrote out what it is that you want in love?
If so what did you write?
Did you say to yourself:
I want her to be great looking.
I want her to be smart
I want her to be intelligent
I want her to be able to put up with me
I want her to always know my heart is her’s
I want her to trust me
I want her to always be there for me
Well the list could probably go on and on.. It matters not whether you are a man or woman!
What about what you don’t want?
I don’t want her nagging me all the time
I don’t want her to always ask where I am going
I don’t want her to not want me to hang out with my friends
YADA YADA YADA
Well all of this are opposite to each other right?
What about this… What do you want out of love with another?
Different question with a whole separate meaning!
There is a whole lot you have to know before you can answer this question the first is are you HAPPY?
What does that have to do with anything right? well EVERYTHING!
If you don’t have love without writing it what will you do? What if you are already single and depressed or anxious to be with someone yet don’t want the drama that goes along with it! You still have avoided the two most important ingredients that will give you what you seek. You have to know love to give love! You do that by giving that to yourself first if you can figure this part out, which most still are awakening to. You have realized that something more gives you more!
Am I happy? If you say no.. Does this mean you want someone to come along and not be happy with you? or will you make them responsible for your happiness? What can you do to make yourself happy to share with another?
If you don’t have Love what will you do? Will you give it to yourself? will you take the time to listen to yourself to understand what it is that love is to you? What you give to yourself you will give to another! Should you decide this is the case you will experience love no matter what. Yet you will find it’s opposites. So many will be together and try to connect, bringing all the things they are for as long as they can keep certain things about the relationship they will doom themselves and the relationship due to no foundation!
Foundation here is used to state what brings me happiness I give to myself I will share with another isn’t it? Foundation in love is the same thing. What is your love you give to another? Does it have conditions? Does it have a face? Does it say something to the other cause you explained what your love is? Isn’t that the same as dictating what love is to them.
When do you embrace love to find the energy that it gives to yourself for you to give to another? So much relationship advice can help you to co exist but what about the advice love can give you without any help at all?
I go day by day, moment by moment, finding those moments I can look into her eyes to connect. Not to feel lost but to feel connected! I also can’t wait to hold her hand! I don’t just wait for her to come to me! I go to where she is! Isn’t that a foundation? What about you, what do you give inside your love that you can give to her and yourself?