Soulmate Questions…..

you can achieve anything you want1. How do I know when I’ve met my Soul Mate?

There will be an instantaneous familiarity, a recognition, and an innate understanding and connection from the beginning that cannot be described logically.

You will be psychically attuned to each other, and will feel so alive in each other’s presence. It’s as if when together, you feel more enhanced, alive, and excited!

You can communicate on many levels at the same time, often “tuning into each other” and “knowing” what is going on with the other person.

There will be a shared sense of purpose. A deep love, and a feeling of “knowing” each other on a soul level. It will feel as if you are with your true counterpart on every level.

All of the feelings are mutual. There is a deep soul-level bond, and a deep feeling of having much in common on many levels.

Physical passion can be extremely intense, or in some soul mate relationships, there is more of an intellectual stimulus, and many times it is both combined.

There is chemistry, passion, electricity, and meaning. This is one relationship that will most likely be the most transformative one in your life, and one that you will always remember, no matter what happens.

2. If I’ve really met my soul mate, why is the relationship so difficult?

Soul Mate relationships are karmic. You have made a soul “agreement” to come into this life to meet again to uproot and transform each of your deepest healing and growth issues.

Naturally, when anyone is faced with having to face and heal eons of negative patterns, there is going to be deep resistance on the ego level.

It is vastly difficult to face what we really came into this life to heal. It will be your soul mate, or “twin flame” that will trigger your deepest growth issues to bring them up to the surface to be healed once and for all.

Naturally when this happens, there is turbulence within the relationship, because there is inner turbulence within each person as they are facing their deepest issues to heal them.

This is a deeply transformative process, and a deeply difficult one. However, once you each see that you are triggering growth within the other, and view it as the true gift that it is, then perhaps some of the resistance will dissipate.

In reality, as long as either one or both of you RESIST your growth issues, and resist facing them down to heal them, there is going to be a great deal of difficulty due to this resistance. However, once the resistance stops, and you face what needs to be healed within, then all of that turbulence within the relationship also dissipates, because you are no longer “fighting the river,” but are “going with the flow” where your can truly soar once you stop fighting everything you know deep within your heart to be true.

This requires a tremendous amount of self-honesty, and courage!

The truth of this matter is that once each of you are true to yourselves, and are completely honest with Self, then the difficulties within the relationship will also be transformed.

Being completely HONEST is the key, and that honesty MUST be to Self first, and then to the other.

3. Why is it that many soul mates don’t stay together?

In every case I have seen, it was FEAR of being true to Self, and displaying that truth to the other.

One or both people refused to face what they needed to face to heal and grow. There were often issues stemming from ego that never made their way into the heart of the person.

Ego can NEVER be the foundation of a relationship – only TRUTH can. Truth is the ONLY thing that can sustain a relationship. If one person is avoiding their self-truth, then they are avoiding their growth agreement for this lifetime.

It is for this reason that most soul mates do not stay together. The relationship must be completely genuine. Each person can make many mistakes, however, where there is a refusal to go within to the heart center, and be completely true and honest with Self about what you are feeling inside, how can ANY relationship flourish? So this is the primary reason as to why soul mates to not stay together.

Spiritual law forbids that one stay with the other if either refuse to heal and grow, be honest, and fulfill their soul agreement.

The agreement was made TO GROW! So when that is not happening, sadly both people must part.

4. How can I turn the dynamics of this relationship around for lasting happiness?

The only way you can turn the dynamics around is when you turn YOURSELF around, and get REALLY HONEST.

If you feel something, say it. If you have something that is upsetting you, discuss it! If you feel confused, scared, blocked, or lost, talk about it!

Honest Communication is the KEY.

You have to STOP ALL GAMES, manipulation, defenses, and be AUTHENTIC and genuine with yourself, and with the other person.

Once you do this, and genuinely communicate what you are feeling, THEN you can have a chance to turn it all around for lasting happiness, and love.

5. Why do many soul mates continually return to each other?

Because the love is REAL. It is true, and it NEVER dies. You can be apart for decades, and the love will still be deep inside, even if you are living a full life on the outside.

True love IS eternal.

Once you’ve met your match, you never forget the person. You can go on, and you can even be with other people, however, there will always be a special place in your heart for your soul mate.

Many return to try to make it work out. Then the growth issues come up, which leads to turbulence within the relationship. Then they part, avoiding the growth lessons. Then they miss each other and return, after seeing that it wasn’t all that terrible to begin with, it was just a growth process!

If you find this happening in your life, take a look at whatever it is that you have been avoiding out of fear. Once you can get really honest with yourself about this, then you CAN be with someone that is your true match. Healing and honesty is required – that is the ONLY way it can ever work out.

6. How can we break old negative patterns between us?

You can only break the old negative patterns within YOURSELF. It is a BIG mistake to focus on the “issues” the other person has. This is avoiding self-growth completely.

Face YOUR fears, issues, and ask yourself what you really want!

What do you want in a relationship? Talk about it with the other person!

What areas would you like to come to an agreement about? Talk about it with the other person!

What have you been afraid of? Talk, talk, talk and COMMUNICATE!

It takes conscious effort to make this profound relationship work! It is SO worth it, once you can come to an agreement based on honesty!

That is the key to it all – it is in daring to expose how you feel, what you want, and even saying if you’re not sure – it’s all okay as long as it is completely honest!

Also see if there is a Higher reason why you chose to meet in this life. Is there something you can be teaming up to work on together? Do you share a common vision to make this world a better place?

So MANY of the “problems” CAN be cleared up once you make a conscious effort to really connect and communicate – HONESTLY!

If you have a disagreement – BIG DEAL! Everyone has disagreements! Just talk it over, and come to an agreement, share your views, and don’t run away!

So many times genuine communication can really clear up so much! THAT is why honest communication is the key! It is not to drag you down, it IS to lift you BOTH up to an authentic place where you CAN resol
ve things between you, as long
as you don’t run away, and really want to resolve them.

You CAN break the negative patterns this way, and that is why this relationship entered your life – so you can both heal, grow, and be authentic knowing that anything can be resolved – you just have to want to come to a mutually agreeable resolution, and then, you can.

7. If we’re apart, and miss each other, what will it take to make it work?

Time. Many times people are not ready to face their deepest issues at the same time others are. Sometimes certain issues really need YEARS to be worked through. It is a growth process not a one time event.

Sometimes you may not get back together. That is something you have to come to terms with. You BOTH have to want to get together and make it work.

All you can do is become your own highest and best. You can’t “wait” for the other person. You MUST live your life to its fullest, in every area. Sometimes the time apart is the greatest gift! It can bring the truth up to the surface within each person, and if that truth means that you really do love each other, and want to be together, you can both make it happen.

If the love is real, it never dies.

Your life, however, is about really facing YOURSELF, and in that process, if you find that you do want to be together, life has a way of working it out. You have to express that desire, honestly.

Trust that it all works out for the best. Live and become your highest and best. If it is meant to be that you do end up together, that truth WILL come out in the end. It always does.

Be REAL – with YOURSELF, that is the only way you can ever be real and make it work with the other person if/when you ever do reunite. Trust there IS a Higher reason for it all – it is growth!

31 Comments on “Soulmate Questions…..”

    • My friend.. If you listen closely within yourself you hear a voice beyond the mind.. It has the ability to show you more than you can imagine! much love to you! CK

  1. Admits…I have to slip offline for a moment…but wanted to say…

    1) thank you…for the recent like
    2) We have mutual blog…friends. I have seen you on other blogs nod nods
    3) I sooooo plan to respond to this…I have blogged about soulmates before myself *smiles* Watch for future soon comment nod nods

  2. This is so well written. This is absolutely true. I find this to be accurate and true through and through. You described the pain/bliss of soul twins beautifully. The most potent alchemy is the relationship alchemy between twin souls. Beyond words. It’s a relationship that is eternal and being lived beyond this third dimensional reality as well.
    My next book is about this. Title is: The White Book: White Fire Love, In the Heart of the Flame.

    With great appreciation to you Clark Kent ~!~

    • Thank you my friend… I left somethings out as within form of the connection you share everything.. I can hear when she is listening to music, I can feel her painful moments, I even experience her cycle.. I came here to experience these things.. Yet it seems to only get deeper within truth. The stronger the communication without words the stronger the connection becomes…Where you aware of this type of connection? And thank you for coming to my blog. I feel all the energies of those that have past as well as get clairaudience, clairvoyance, etc.. abruptly when I am still. She does as well. I am following your blog. It is a honor to meet you! CK

      • CK,
        Your comment: The stronger the communication without words the stronger the connection becomes…Where you aware of this type of connection?”

        Yes, I am very aware. Yes, I do notice your sensitivity: clairaudience, clairvoyance.” this comes with the death/rebirth experience. Yes, I am happy you are following my blog and today you clicked “like” on two articles that were perfect for me to read at this time. I receive these transmissions for my personal soul advancement and then share them. So when you clicked on my post, “Your Heart Speaks, I knew that this particular wisdom is perfect for me right now. Yes, it is an honor to know you too CK. And we continue to share on this wonderful WP platform with the greater community.
        Be joy, CF

  3. I have found mine… it was something that both of us felt even before we spoke, it was instantaneous. And, as we spend more and more time together our bond just becomes stronger. I believe that he is just the other half to my soul, and now we are one. Going on our year anniversary and he is even more amazing as every second goes by.

  4. I have an additional question. How tied are we to these soul mates? Is it possible for one of us to leave the other behind, perminently? If, say, I’m at the point where I can stand to be seen, but only by him. And perhaps he can’t stand to be seen, can’t stand to be who he is, then am I still tied to him? If I’m ready to connect on my own and abandon the only path to him, which is lined with pain, can I go? I don’t just mean the bodies of today and the karam and the petty. I mean up, where the flames are already all one. Can I sever that and move beyond the karma?

    • My friend in some ways you have a soul mate the can share your soul or parts of it.. yet that flame or twin flame will engage in your vibrational frequency and will not need to say or do anything to draw your attention or your soul. This ability is beyond the means that you need to experience thus far. If you are struggling there will be another to come and touch you and hold you the way that you desire.. This desire how ever is not something you give yourself.. As you find this path inside you and decide to take it then you will call to your twin flame.. As you struggle to reach your core your other will come and allow your core to be exposed to you brightly.. This may be a rocky road at first.. or it may be pure pain to exact the very pain you continually hide inside yourself already. If you twin has already left this place there is always a message… An example of this would be do you understand how someone gets cancer and has never smoked a day in their life.. Well this is the sure sign that they twin flame has passed on.. The body is decaying and causing there other half to disentegrate. You have pains in you that you need to heal within yourself to heal your soul mate and then as you progress something more comes to you and touches you to your core.. The pain of loneliness and fear will be taken when this happens… You can’t remove this person from inside of you.. They are you as much as you are them.. Karmic energy is the same as going through a negative sphere and the negative things seem to keep finding you. The positive sphere can give you back the same things as well. You have a deep powerful soul.. you just need to keep asking the questions that come from within you to hear them and have an answer to them!

  5. Mr Kent, this rings so true as I recognize it for what it is. I have just recently been writing about my soul mate. It’s wonderful to have it all laid out so perfectly and eloquently. Is it possible to ever find another one…..I always revert back to him in my heart even though I have been in love since. Jen

    • My friend you may have more than one soul mate.. but you will only have one twin flame.. This person will make you see yourself inside yourself and allow you the connection that is experienced before or after here. The vibrational frequency of what you get from soul mates varies some will be very close to this as there will only be the one that will directly be your own soul.. They will be able to share your dreams in your sleep, they will be able to taste the food you eat as you will them. It will only get stronger even in their absence. Yet very few know of this connection but it exist I promise you it does! And when you say revert what do you mean?

      • The twin flame then has come and gone (my fault). The timing was all wrong. I have been n love several times since and I’m sure I will again but I will never be able to repeat the love of this one I think. I am OK with that though. I had my chance.

  6. My friend do you know if he still feels this way about you inside… Once you meet your twin flame they stay in a place near or around where you are… It is almost as though something keeps you to them and them to you… It is a very humbling feeling… Yet if you have no idea where they are or what they are doing and it ended without any words on both parts this could be a direct soul mate that is close to you and will be again but not in the form that makes it complete.

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  8. I have many soul mates and split aparts. They may be male or female. I’m very blessed to have them in my life. Soul mates are not always lovers. But connect on a higher level than that. I have a dear friend that I do not view sexually at all. He is my brother but only in spirit. Without him though, I would be lost. He is my anemone, and I am his clown fish. Loving him is as easy as breathing. Living with him, ah that would not be pretty I’m afraid. Good post.

  9. Absolutely beautiful. I love how you put intangible, illogical thing such as soulmate into something more logical. I wonder if someone is my soulmate. Well the thing is, we just bid us goodbye, and I really wonder if we could across each others’ lives some time in the future just as you said ‘time’ is needed. I really wish we could. I feel the things you described in number one, but I don’t know what happened, things suddenly fell apart.
    anyway thanks for sharing this post. I am so blessed!

    • I experienced the connection disconnection then the truth which was inside myself. Some are ready for this some are not! I was no where near what I felt I deserved cause of how I treated myself and others. Sometimes this takes an entire experience here to go through birth and death again to know what is inside that you truly can share with another. I can only say you are two wholes of the whole you do share one soul but until one side is ready for the other it may continue to elude you! But trust it my friend.. I feel love is coming your way! 😉

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