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APRIL 2025

**30-Day “Heal Your Connection to Yourself” Challenge**

**Based on the Connection Matrix by Sherry & Lee Patterson**

*Daily Questions & Letters to Repair Your Inner Connection Triangle*

**If you complete this you will not be the same in any aspect of your life!**

**Guidelines for Letters**:

- Write to your inner child or younger self.

- Focus on *your feelings*, not who caused them.

- Use phrases like “I see you,” “I’m sorry,” “Thank you,” “I promise.”

- Sign each letter: “With love, Your Present Self.”

**Week 1: Naming the Wound**

**Day 1**: *When did I first learn to hide my emotions?*

**Letter**: Write to your inner child about the fear of expressing feelings and how it impacted your sense of safety.

**Day 2**: *What childhood emotion feels “unsafe” to revisit?*

**Letter**: Describe the weight of this emotion and how it lives in your body.

**Day 3**: *When did I stop trusting my instincts?*

**Letter**: Apologize to yourself for dismissing your intuition.

**Day 4**: *What need did I learn to suppress?*

**Letter**: Grieve the loss of this need and promise to honor it now.

**Day 5**: *How do I abandon myself to please others?*

**Letter**: Write a vow to prioritize your boundaries.

**Day 6**: *What critical voice from my past still lives in me?*

**Letter**: Tell your inner critic, “I no longer need you to protect me.”

**Day 7**: *When did I equate love with sacrifice?*

**Letter**: Release the belief that love requires losing yourself.

**Week 2: Rewriting the Code**

**Day 8**: *What lie did I believe about my worth?*

**Letter**: Replace the lie with a truth: “I am worthy because ______.”

**Day 9**: *What old story about love can I let go of?*

**Letter**: Burn this story (metaphorically) in your letter.

**Day 10**: *What does “safe love” look like to me now?*

**Letter**: Describe this vision in vivid detail.

**Day 11**: *How can I reparent myself today?*

**Letter**: Write a nurturing message to your inner child.

**Day 12**: *What boundary will I set to honor my needs?*

**Letter**: Affirm your right to say “no” without guilt.

**Day 13**: *What joy have I denied myself?*

**Letter**: Plan a small act of joy to reclaim it.

**Day 14**: *What new belief about connection will I adopt?*

**Letter**: “I am learning to trust ______.”

**Week 3: Embracing Vulnerability**

**Day 15**: *What emotion have I labeled “weak”?*

**Letter**: Reframe this emotion as a strength.

**Day 16**: *What truth have I been avoiding?*

**Letter**: Share it with yourself gently.

**Day 17**: *When did I last let someone truly see me?*

**Letter**: Celebrate that moment and commit to more.

**Day 18**: *What mask do I wear to feel “acceptable”?*

**Letter**: Thank it for protecting you, then set it down.

**Day 19**: *What forgiveness do I need to grant myself?*

**Letter**: “I release the shame of ______.”

**Day 20**: *How can I ask for support today?*

**Letter**: Practice saying, “I need ______.”

**Day 21**: *What messy part of me deserves compassion?*

**Letter**: Embrace it: “You’re allowed to be imperfect.”

**Week 4: Rebuilding the Triangle**

**Day 22**: *Where do I seek external validation?*

**Letter**: “I am enough, even when ______.”

**Day 23**: *What childhood pain still needs witnessing?*

**Letter**: Sit with it: “I see you. You matter.”

**Day 24**: *How can I nurture my inner parent/child dynamic?*

**Letter**: Create a dialogue between the two.

**Day 25**: *What fear holds me back from deeper connections?*

**Letter**: Whisper, “I am safe to try again.”

**Day 26**: *What old pattern no longer serves me?*

**Letter**: Thank it, then say goodbye.

**Day 27**: *How will I practice co-regulation with myself?*

**Letter**: “When I feel overwhelmed, I will ______.”

**Day 28**: *What does mutual growth look like for me?*

**Letter**: Sketch a relationship where both people thrive.

**Final Days: Integration & Celebration**

**Day 29**: *What healed part of me wants to speak?*

**Letter**: Let it declare, “I am proud of ______.”

**Day 30**: *How have I changed in 30 days?*

**Letter**: Honor your courage and commit to ongoing growth.

30-Day “Heal Your Connection to Yourself” Challenge

Based on the Connection Matrix by Sherry & Lee Patterson

Daily Questions & Letters to Repair Your Inner Connection Triangle

If you complete this you will not be the same in any aspect of your life!

Guidelines for Letters:

***- Focus on your feelings, not who caused them.***

Week 1: Naming the Wound

**Day 1: *When did I first learn to hide my emotions?***

Letter: Write to your inner child about the fear of expressing feelings and how it impacted your sense of safety.

**Day 2: *What childhood emotion feels “unsafe” to revisit?***

Letter: Describe the weight of this emotion and how it lives in your body.

**Day 3: *When did I stop trusting my instincts?***

Letter: Apologize to yourself for dismissing your intuition.

**Day 4: *What need did I learn to suppress?***

Letter: Grieve the loss of this need and promise to honor it now.

**Day 5: *How do I abandon myself to please others?***

Letter: Write a vow to prioritize your boundaries.

**Day 6: *What critical voice from my past still lives in me?***

Letter: Tell your inner critic, “I no longer need you to protect me.”

**Day 7: *When did I equate love with sacrifice?***

Letter: Release the belief that love requires losing yourself.

Week 2: Rewriting the Code

**Day 8: *What lie did I believe about my worth?***

Letter: Replace the lie with a truth: “I am worthy because ______.”

**Day 9: *What old story about love can I let go of?***

Letter: Burn this story (metaphorically) in your letter.

**Day 10: *What does “safe love” look like to me now?***

Letter: Describe this vision in vivid detail.

**Day 11: *How can I reparent myself today?***

Letter: Write a nurturing message to your inner child.

**Day 12: *What boundary will I set to honor my needs?***

Letter: Affirm your right to say “no” without guilt.

**Day 13: *What joy have I denied myself?***

Letter: Plan a small act of joy to reclaim it.

**Day 14: *What new belief about connection will I adopt?***

Letter: “I am learning to trust ______.”

Week 3: Embracing Vulnerability

**Day 15: *What emotion have I labeled “weak”?***

Letter: Reframe this emotion as a strength.

**Day 16: *What truth have I been avoiding?***

Letter: Share it with yourself gently.

**Day 17: *When did I last let someone truly see me?***

Letter: Celebrate that moment and commit to more.

**Day 18: *What mask do I wear to feel “acceptable”?***

Letter: Thank it for protecting you, then set it down.

**Day 19: *What forgiveness do I need to grant myself?***

Letter: “I release the shame of ______.”

**Day 20: *How can I ask for support today?***

Letter: Practice saying, “I need ______.”

**Day 21: *What messy part of me deserves compassion?***

Letter: Embrace it: “You’re allowed to be imperfect.”

Week 4: Rebuilding the Triangle

**Day 22: *Where do I seek external validation?***

Letter: “I am enough, even when ______.”

**Day 23: *What childhood pain still needs witnessing?***

Letter: Sit with it: “I see you. You matter.”

**Day 24: *How can I nurture my inner parent/child dynamic?***

Letter: Create a dialogue between the two.

**Day 25: *What fear holds me back from deeper connections?***

Letter: Whisper, “I am safe to try again.”

**Day 26: *What old pattern no longer serves me?***

Letter: Thank it, then say goodbye.

**Day 27: *How will I practice co-regulation with myself?***

Letter: “When I feel overwhelmed, I will ______.”

**Day 28: *What does mutual growth look like for me?***

Letter: Sketch a relationship where both people thrive.

Final Days: Integration & Celebration

**Day 29: *What healed part of me wants to speak?***

Letter: Let it declare, “I am proud of ______.”

**Day 30: *How have I changed in 30 days?***

Letter: Honor your courage and commit to ongoing growth.